Taking charge of your life

Taking charge of your own life is a hard thing to do.

Suddenly there is no one there making decisions for you.

When that happens, you throw your hat to the wind.

Raise the anchor, and set sail.

No matter how many times you hit bottom, unless you really worked at it,

you get to try again. When you do try again.

Make a different, better a choice, because you are informed now.

Lazy Parents and Sickly Kids, walking does not kill you

On my days off I enjoy walking. On some of those days I walk right by a junior high school.

Everyday there are seventy to eighty cars with parent(s) in them waiting up to an hour to pick up their kid(s).

What a waste of their life and a disservice to their children!

Why don’t they invest a few dollars in a pair walking shoes, and walk to meet their kids?

It would fill up dead time

It would provide more together time

It would make all their lives more enjoyable

It would keep them out of the seven-eleven or McDonalds after school every day.

It would help make them regular.

It would help them live longer healthier lives.

Who am I kidding…work to some of them is finding the remote.

Money, church collections, and charities

In the late fifties and early sixties I had an uncle who worked for an evangelist.

To get a letter of thank you from the evangelist, cost you over one hundred dollars in your envelope.

If you expected a phone call was a minimum of a five hundred dollar donation.

Anything less, and the money was taken out, and the envelope and contents thrown away – unread.

It doesn’t seem like much has changed over the years in these practices.

Charities are different. Send them twenty dollars using your address, and you can expect to get twice as much back in the form of mail asking for more.

I like my friends

I really like my friends.

I thought I would mention that.

Some people do not like their friends  you know.

They just put up with them because they do not want to be alone.
I never had more than one or two friends at once, but they all have been very special.

With a few of them, decades have gone by without us talking, but when I needed help, there they were.

Those few friends I have in my life had I would not trade for all the social sites on the net.

My net friends are special too!

For eighteen years now, I have traded thoughts and frustrations and happiness with one.

I would not trade him for any friday night friend either. He has always been there in his own way….

Life plan

When you plan your life out, whether it is week by week, year by year, or for decades at a time it feels like you are on track to accomplish something.

When you gently guide your life as you live it, you find you accomplish bigger things with less effort, and you enjoy the trip more.

You will come to understand that the only end point in your life here is when your body stops.

The next time you walk into an empty room, turn in a circle. Everything inside the circle you turn in is what you control in your life.  

 Now that you understand how much of your life is not under your control, be more thoughtful of those around you. They are the people who really control your life.

Sex, marriage, the baby carriage, and divorce

A number of people I have met over the years married because of a pregnancy. They usually all follow the same cycle.

He never loved her, didn’t even like her, she was just available. He say’s she wasn’t even that good, just easy.

• When you talk like that I know what a prize you are

She either wanted out of the house, or wanted to pretend someone really cared for her.

• He sure was someone to pick for the father of your baby

He was as good as any man likely to come along, so she lets herself get pregnant.

• Trading one hell for another

Then they pretend they are enjoying the wedding and are happy to be married.

• They have sex, and watch tv

They pretend for a year or so, and then the true feelings start coming out, but they keep it a secret.

• Everyone is unhappy, that’s just the way it is

The sex stops except for hall sex, he takes up drinking, or running the streets.

• He never felt married to start with

She feels like she is stuck home taking care of a kid she does not want.

• This hell IS worse than the living with my parents hell

Eventually she takes a lover too, and he finds out, and finally after making each others life a living hell they get divorced.

• He is an asshole

• She is a slut, and a tramp

Now they are single again. Not one of them ever said it was worth it….

• Broke and stuck in the poverty cycle of life

Almost single with a ring

I listen to my male married friends complain about their relationships. They do not like this, they do not like that. They don’t like the way the house looks, they do all the cleaning themselves. They haven’t….

The list goes on and on. Eventually one of the daring, mentions how he wishes he was single. Life would be so much better, blah, blah, blah.

The conversation stops when I say, “It sounds like you almost are….”

If you do not like him or her right now, quit before it becomes more serious.

Sex gets old eventually, what is great now, will be a job in the future.

What annoys you now, you will hate in a few years.

Think with the other head for a change.

Do you even like him/her, or is he/she just easy, and cute?

Eventually you become a prisoner in a relationship because neither of you can afford the bills alone.

yada yada yada all the way home….

Who do you save

This came from my college days. The answer is easier as you get older. It is a logic question, but the answer comes from your heart and your brain. Two versions….

You are in a canoe with your Father and your husband.  You are the only one that can swim. The canoe tips over, who do you save and why.?

You are in a canoe with your Mother and your wife.  You are the only one that can swim. The canoe tips over, who do you save and why?

There is no right answer, just a hard decision

Make a difference

Women raise their little girls to shop

Men raise their boys to drink after high school sports are done, and real life starts

And we expect to make a difference in the world?

Accept no compromise

I have heard those words from a car or cigarette advertisement in the past, “Accept no compromise.”

Your Father is a major alcoholic.

Your Mother could care less about you.

Is there any choice but to accept – no compromise – when young?

Com-promise?

com – with, together, jointly, altogether

promise – a declaration or assurance that one will do a particular thing

The world is full of people who accepted no compromise when they were children.

Now they are adults with problems.